Here’s the thing I don’t understand about LGBT folk saying that Asexual and Demisexual, and possibly Pansexual, folk not belonging in the rights movement. What gave you the fucking right to decide that?
See, and here’s the thing, it’s not just about the right to get married. It’s the right to be recognized as being a valid orientation. As being real. That you don’t fit the heterosexual mold. Now don’t get your panties in a twist, I’m not saying that the right to get married isn’t a very very very large part of the LGBT movement. But I am saying it’s not the only part.
It’s about the right to say that you are who you are and to not be ridiculed for that.
It’s for people like me, who have a pride sticker on their car, but have to lie to their dad, because there’s no way he’d approve.
It’s for people who are told that they: just haven’t met the right person, who are asked if they were raped, or sexually assaulted, or that they’re trapping their spouse in an abusive relationship. All of these are real stories that have happened to people I know in the Asexual community.
So, again, I ask: Who gave you the right to decide that we shouldn’t look for recognition? That our issues aren’t as important as yours?
Look. I’m not saying you guys don’t go through hell. You do. I get that. I’m not even saying that all of you believe that Asexuals and Pansexuals don’t exist. But some of you do. And it’s them this is aimed at.
I’m Demi. It’s impossible for me to experience sexual attraction, not arousal mind you, for someone unless I’ve developed an extremely strong emotional connection with them. I don’t always want to have sex with someone because I have that bond, and sometimes the bond isn’t romantic. It’s different for every Demi.
If I was purely Asexual, it would be impossiblefor me to have sexual attraction, at all. Again, it’s not impossible to experience arousal. I’m not purely Asexual, however, so if you want learn more about that, or any of this actually, go to: www.asexuality.org , or http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Main_Page
Look. I’m always available to answer questions. And I will. In fact, most all of us will.
What we want is to be acknowledged. To not be told that we’re wrong. That we just want to be ‘special snowflakes.’
I don’t want anyone to be as confused as I was. To wonder why I wasn’t interested in sex like everybody else was. I thought I was a freak. That I wasn’t right. And everybody I ever talked to about it, they only confirmed those thoughts more and more. If it wasn’t for discovering Demisexuality and the AVEN community, I don’t know where I would be. If my roommate wasn’t as supportive and interested as she is, I don’t know what would have happened.
I want to be acknowledged as valid. Is that too much to ask?